Spectator sport = giving up sex to watch porn

This is not going to be polite. It’s the sort of comment that start brawls at dinner dances and weddings. Leading to bleeding cricket uncles, Machans, and oceans of precious single malts in the carpet. I would be unrepentant when hauled away. However, unlike cricket, I have an explanation and you are reading it. It …

Suspicious rituals

I've been suspicious of rituals that permeate Sri Lankan life. It stems from a powerful lifelong inner conviction I've had since I was a child. The rituals around me - from dinner dances to school assemblies to pujas - were false, contrived, and manipulative. Deep down, I wanted nothing to do with them. So there …

Gift COVID gave to me

It's feeling comfortable with not giving fuck about tribal affiliations and associated displays. It's accepting that I'm an introvert who prefers not to socialise as a detached fact - not a value judgment. I can play the extrovert for survival (which is what the job requires). Yet even at my chattiest, the inner introvert is …

Sri Lanka’s politicians are the problem NOT the solution

Sri Lanka's professional politicians are the cause, not the solution, to the country's current catastrophe. They must ALL resign from politics. We must end the idea of politics as a profession. All of which might be harder to swallow than we think. As a group, they made politics into a lucrative form of organised crime …

COVID and the inner introvert

Pre-COVID, I thought I was an extrovert. It took a plague to kill that delusion. Not having to perform in the world of face to face interactions was a relief. I felt I no longer had to hold my inner breath anymore. I could admit to myself the insanity of the commute. Why go to …